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Cord Cutting As A Technique To Improve Relationships (And Your Emotional Health)

What is a cord of attachment?

When you establish a relationship with someone (of any kind), you form two energetic structures with that person.  The first one is a structure containing the unconditional love and the soul-level bond between you two.  The second is a structure which contains all the negative patterns and dynamics of your relationship.  

This is the one that we call the cord of attachment. This astral level attachment is not a positive structure.  You contribute negative patterns into that cord, and the other person does too.

Those patterns of emotion, thought and behaviour circulate in that cord, until you cut it.  And that cord is connected to your aura, so the energies of the cord enter your aura 24/7 and affect you subconsciously in a variety of ways. Cords don’t just drain your energy. 

They send negative patterns back and forth between you both, and into your aura.  Traumas can circulate in them, leaving you feeling haunted by them (for want of a better word).  They can also cause you to choose relationships and experiences that you wouldn’t otherwise because they predispose you to act in a certain way.

What happens when you cut a cord?

When you cut a cord of attachment, you are lifting out and removing the negative behavioural, emotional and mental patterns that circulate between you and the other person.  If the cordee is still alive, then your relationship can improve as a result. But not just that – your overall personal power and clarity can improve.  If the cordee is dead or you are not in contact, then it becomes a lot easier to put the negative aspects (and thoughts) of that particular relationship behind you.

Which cords do you recommend I cut?

We don’t form cords of attachment with everyone we come into contact with.  And I will always check before we cut a cord that it’s one worth cutting.

But here are the relationships that usually have a lot of impact when you cut a cord of attachment to that person:

Cutting cords to close relatives, such as parents, children or siblings can make a significant impact on your emotions.

When you have a cord to someone close to you who has (or has had) an addiction, such as alcoholism, or an addiction to hard drugs, or even drugs such as marijuana, it can make a real difference to your aura when you take out that cord.

Cutting cords to abusers and bullies can be impactful, whether the abuse was emotional, verbal, sexual, or physical.

Cutting cords to someone you’ve had a difficult break up with can be helpful.

Cutting cords to a current spouse or partner can be helpful too, especially if you are having difficulties in the relationship.

So we don’t form cords with everyone that we come into contact with?

No. We tend to have significant cords of attachment with family members. We also create cords of attachment when we become interested in a person, whether that is romantic or as a friend.

Why do we even form cords of attachment with people?

Negative patterns help us to grow and evolve as we strive to move beyond them. This is why I believe we form cords of attachment- as they contain the negative patterns of a relationship and in dealing with those aspects we expand and grow, as human and spiritual beings.

When I was studying spiritual healing, I was also taught that we have a percentage of negative and a percentage of positive lessons in a relationship with someone (and some have only negative lessons).  The positive experiences are reflected in the tie of unconditional love and the negative lessons form an energetic structure too. If you process those negative lessons and take the learning from them, you can remove the negative connection and change how you feel about it.

Can you feel if someone cuts an energy cord to you?

When you cut a cord of attachment, you are cutting the cord on your end only, and the person you cut the cord with will not feel it.

Why does it take 45 - 60 minutes to cut one cord? Can’t you just cut all your cords in a few minutes and be done with it?

Sometimes healers think that you can just ask Archangel Michael to cut a cord (or all your cords) and it will be so.  Or you can just visualize the cord-cutting happening and that will do it.  

I was taught to cut cords in this way the first time I tried it.  It didn’t work, because you have to understand the energies, patterns and dynamics contained within the cord, in order to cut it.  Discussing the patterns often takes 20+ minutes in a cord cutting session.

If you just ask Archangel Michael to cut all your cords, the cords of attachment won’t be cut. Instead you will actually be cutting all your psychic ties, which is a more minor type of energetic structure.

Do you ever need to cut a cord a second time?

No, you only cut a cord once, and when you do it properly, it never comes back.

Is cord cutting painful? 

No a cord cutting is not painful. In fact it’s quite freeing. The emotional release can sometimes let go of pent up anger, sadness or other strong emotions that may be attached to the cords. Oftentimes, you will feel lighter and more at peace

Does cutting a cord of attachment ever hurt the person at the other end?

No, not when the procedure is done properly.  The other person is not affected unless that person also receives a cord of attachment session as well.  The point of the cord cutting is to free and empower you, because you are the person who has requested this kind of help.  It can only change your energy field and emotions.  It doesn’t impact on the other person because they have their own free will.

Can cords be removed in other ways?

You can reduce the negative effects of cord energies by doing EFT, or other therapies that work on the psychological level.  Personally I have found that this form of spiritual healing is one of the most effective types of healing for relationships.

I am thinking of cutting a cord of attachment to someone, but I’m not sure who – can you recommend someone in a session?

By all means. If you give me a list of people that you’d like to cut cords with, I will check to see if any of them are significant enough to cut.

Do you need to believe in cord cutting for it to work?

No. Although this modality will suit you more if you are a spiritual person because we will be healing your energy body and chakras. If we don’t speak the same language (so to speak) then it will be harder to do the session.

Is it recommended to cut cords to someone you want to be with or remain married to?

Yes, – I often cut this type of cord for clients.

Does the cord cutting change the relationship?

It can change how you feel and behave in positive ways. But it won’t necessarily turn an abusive or negative relationship into a good one. In those situations it can help you to find more power to advocate for yourself and stand your ground, or end the relationship.

Are there some cords that are not worth cutting?

Yes – some cords are so minor that they aren’t worth cutting.  We also have tiny psychic ties to people.  I always remove those after sessions. Those are not the same as cords of attachment (see above.)

When is it appropriate to cut cords of attachment? 

Cord Cutting is useful when you are corded to someone in an unhealthy way that negatively impacts your spiritual, physical, mental or emotional well being.

How long do cords last?

Usually, a cord of attachment will be part of your aura for the rest of your lifetime unless you remove it.  Even if the person at the other end is deceased, the energy pattern in the cord remains active. 

If a cord is cut, how long before it comes back?

When this procedure is done properly, it will not come back.  

Do you cut cords of attachment between people who want to stay married?

Most of the time, this is  the case.  The majority of cord-cuttings facilitated are between couples or blood relatives, like a parent and child.  You receive a fresh start, with more opportunity than before to design the kind of relationship you desire. 

Will cutting a cord of attachment turn a bad relationship into a good one?

No. Each person in a relationship has free will.  Cutting a cord of attachment just frees you from psychic level energy that can distort your life.  When this procedure is done properly, results can improve all of your relationships, including your relationship with yourself. 

Could cutting a cord of attachment help when someone we love has died?

Any time you hear people talk about “the pain that will be with me for the rest of my life” there is probably a cord of attachment involved.  Until that cord is cut, the pain can continue to hurt.  

Could this help if I had a divorce?

Absolutely, cutting a cord of attachment can make the difference between mourning a loss for the rest of your life versus getting back your power and your life. 

How does cutting a cord compare with having psychotherapy over a relationship? 

Therapy is indispensable.  Yet it is no substitute for having the energy link removed, so that you have more clarity as a person who can make choices.  This technique is an excellent supplement to therapy. In fact, I have noticed that clients who use a combination of therapy (spiritual counseling) and energy work have best results.


Does every relationship result in a cord of attachment?

No, a cord cutting is not necessary for every relationship you have.